People who act solely by what they think seem cold to me, but I have to admit they appear to be more successful in life than people who act solely on what they feel.
Regardless of what people tell you, you are the only one who decides what you feel, so actually you are always acting on what you think, even when you think you’re going with what you feel.
“I don’t feel like going to work today,” sounds like you’re acting on feeling, but actually you might not “feel” like going to work today because you “think” seeing a movie is more fun, and worth blowing off work. Or perhaps you “think” something is going to be uncomfortable at work today.
No one can make you mad, no one can make you happy. You decide to be angry or you decide to be happy.
The reason your feelings may sometime seem to have a life of their own is because you might have done the thinking long ago about what to feel in certain situations, about what is important to you, about what makes you uncomfortable, and about what things you will fight to keep hidden, or to defend.
I urge you to feel all you can, but always examine why you feel like you feel.
Don’t say things to yourself like, “He makes me so angry!!”
Instead try to explain to yourself why you became angry, or better yet, why you felt what you felt right before you got angry. “He’s not listening to me. That makes me feel unimportant.”
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